Life is not normal…
when your parent is dying. (I know…a total shocker.) Yet it is.
Let me speak for myself…my Mom is dying. I am lucky. I’ve always had a good relationship with her and with the rest of my family. I am blessed.
Yet I find myself in an uncomfortable limbo. I don’t want her to die, and I am waiting for her to die. I don’t want her to suffer. I don’t want to suffer.
I also feel the urge to get on with life. This, my friends, can cause a lot of guilt. I’ve seen it in every caregiver I’ve worked with.
I now see it in myself.
Luckily, I can talk to my family and friends. They all assure me I am not a horrible person—In fact, I am normal. They echo to me my own words to my clients over the years.
Life and death co-exist. Even as loved beings die, life continues to lure us to live. It is normal in a very un-normal time.
Perhaps all of life is like that.