Chicken Soup for the Whole

by | Jan 18, 2011 | Musings | 2 comments

Wholeness. That’s it. That is why I run my groups for women over 40 without children. I lead those groups as a pathway for women to see themselves as complete and whole.

Complete whether or not they have children. Complete whether or not they have partners. Complete whether or not they have jobs, friends, a house, a degree, whatever it is by which we judge our wholeness.

The 7th group for women over 40 with out children started yesterday, on the Martin Luther King Holiday. A couple of the women mentioned the freedom they have in their lives because they don’t have children. They gave thanks for the freedom they have as women, freedom our foremothers didn’t have.

To see ourselves as whole, regardless of our external or internal circumstances is freedom–perhaps the greatest freedom we can have.

by | Nov 10, 2010 | Musings | 0 comments

“There is a peaceful relief when judgment and criticism are abandoned because they cause constant unconscious guilt as well as fear of retribution.”

~David Hawkins

by | Oct 12, 2010 | Musings | 0 comments

“When we hold another in our memory as we knew them,
we stop ourselves from seeing them anew.”

~Love Moore

“You’re weirder than I am!”

by | Oct 10, 2010 | Musings | 0 comments

“That is my job” I replied. I realized when my client made the weirdness comment, that my job is to be weirder than my clients. Let me put it another way—my job is to help people push the boundaries of what is “normal” for them.

“Normal” behaviors and thought patterns are no longer working for my clients, or they wouldn’t be in my office. I help them move out of their comfort zone, to find new ways of thinking, feeling and acting in the world. Which means I have to be able to push my limits of normal. (See the previous post.)

A therapist cannot take their clients where they are not comfortable going themselves. So I took my client’s comment today as great praise. Thank you!

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