Musings
The Strange Ignoring of Strangers
The Strange Ignoring of Strangers When did we start thinking ignoring other people in our vicinity was a good idea? I live in Seattle, the “land of no eye contact.” This reputation is reinforced almost every time I go out in public. One of the places I love to walk is...
The Magical Word for Self-Care
My friend and awesome colleague, Agnes Massak Wainman, produced this very funny video about saying "No." "No" that magical word that can reduce our stress, and help us take our life back. Here's the video
Want to Increase Your Stress? Multi-Task
A nice, clear, article on why multi-tasking is stress inducing, and some ideas of what to do to reduce our stress. Plus, I am one of the experts cited! Why Multi-Tasking Just Doesn't Work
Change Your Relationship to Your Things & Change Your Life
(Image by Anne Dirkse) This idea was put forth in “the life-changing magic of tidying up” by Marie Kondo. She posits that when we have trouble letting go of a possession, it is because it symbolizes an attachment to the past, a desire for stability in the future, or a...
Tell Your Partner You Want More Space—Without Killing the Relationship
Image by Happa, via Wikimedia Commons Personal space allows us to remain connected to ourselves rather than getting lost in the other person’s life and beliefs. So many people “lose themselves” when they are in a partnership. I work with many couples who grapple with...
What NOT to Say to someone with Alzheimer’s
If you stop saying these things to a person with a dementia like Alzheimer’s, your struggles with communication and behavior problems will reduce. 1. Never say, “Do you remember me? This immediately says to the person, “I’m testing you” and they will get nervous and...