10% Happier:  How Meditation Turned a Skeptic to an Evangelist

10% Happier: How Meditation Turned a Skeptic to an Evangelist

10% Happier: How Meditation Turned a Skeptic to an Evangelist

In all fairness, I doubt that Dan Harris, a news anchor and correspondent for ABC would call himself an evangelist. However, since he has written a wonderful book extolling the benefits of meditation (and I like to overstate things for effect) I am sticking with the word.

If you have an interest in meditation, calming your mind, not letting your ego run the show all the time, and/or genuinely being a kinder person—read this book.

Even if you have no interest in mediation and just like reading an stimulating, well-written book, read 10% Happier: How I Tamed The Voice In My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, And Found Self-Help That Actually Works—A True Story.

I have been meditating for over 20 years, so I admit a bias. I have seen the benefits in my own life from early on. In the first year or so, I was lurching my way toward a daily practice (read meditating for a week, then stopping for a week or month or two.) One day, as I was sniping about something minor, my boyfriend said “You haven’t been meditating lately have you?” I won’t bother you with my response.

His comment surprised me. I knew I felt better even if I sat for 10 minutes. I had no clue others could see the difference. My life was no less stressful. I just didn’t react as much.

That is the brilliance of meditation.

In many ways, we can’t control what is going on in or world. (The stock market comes to mind.) We can control how we respond.

This is where our power is.

We have a habit of looking outside ourselves for happiness and struggling with all the things wrong in the world—all the things that get in our way of happiness. It is a paradox that by creating greater calm inside, we actually find we have greater influence outside ourselves, with less struggle and stress.

As Dan writes in his book’s epilogue “Paradoxically, looking inward has made me a much more outward facing and much nicer colleague, friend and husband.”

Who doesn’t want that?

If you are interested in the meditation that Dan does, you can go to his website for a free 7 day introduction to meditation.

A Tiny Symbol of Self-Love

A Tiny Symbol of Self-Love

A Tiny Symbol of Self-Love

Who knew a band-aide could stand for so much?

It had been a long, stress-filled Tuesday. The clock showed 8:08 pm as I was leaving my office. I was tired, having seen 8 clients that day, with ½ hour of free time since 8 am.

I was leaving in 2 days to go to CA to stay with my mom, niece and nephew so my sister and brother-in-law could have a short vacation. In short—I was busy, with a long list of things to accomplish before I left.

A few days before I sliced off a small chunk of thumb cutting up tomatoes. I ran out of band-aides, and every time I hit the tip of my thumb it throbbed in pain.

Let’s just say I was not having a good time at 8:09 pm, having hit my thumb for what seemed like the 100th time, as I got into my car. I had previously decided to wait until Wednesday afternoon to buy band-aides because that would be the most efficient time to do it. (I am uber keen on being efficient.)

At 8:10, as I sat in my car, cradling my thumb, I made a decision. Efficient or not, I drove directly to the store to buy band-aides. As soon as I got back into my car with the purchased band-aides I put one on.

My entire body relaxed–I had taken time for a small act of self-care.

When I got home I further changed my plans and took a short walk in my neighborhood to investigate the new gardens that had sprung up this spring. I noticed the care my neighbors had put into making bare earth beautiful. I watched the sky get darker. I smelled the fragrant trees. I wrote this post.

I was in the present moment. I still had things to do, but I did them with more peace, less urgency and more energy.

Who knew a band-aide could foster such a change of attitude?

What do you do in your life that is a tiny symbol of self-love—small actions that bring noticeable shifts or gifts?

Want a suggestion? Do more of them. They make a difference.

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Instructions for Living

Instructions for Living

I just read the words below five minutes ago, and something in me simultaneously settled and thrilled.

“Yet it is good to know about our terrible selves, not laud or criticize them, just acknowledge them. Then, out of this knowledge, we are better equipped to make a choice for beauty, kind consideration and clear truth. We make this choice with our feet firmly on the ground. We are not running wildly after beauty with fear at our backs.”
– From “Writing Down the Bones” by Natalie Goldberg

I’m sitting on my back deck, in the late afternoon, with the long grasses blowing. I have a cowboy hat to keep off the sun, a sweatshirt from my much-loved college, reading glasses, and a mind in the process of expanding.

I’m reading Natalie Goldberg’s book because I am writing a book. I’m looking for all the help I can get, and a friend gave me “Writing Down the Bones”. As I read that paragraph I realized that these are directions for writing, for the therapeutic process, for life.

Ostensibly, I am writing a book for family caregivers for someone who has Alzheimer’s. Even as I stumble through the outline process (I made it through getting my PhD without ever outlining anything) I realize that my book is not just about caregiving—it is about living more authentically.

It is about running after beauty with our feet on the ground. I am thrilled and terrified.

Natalie G’s words helped solidify the knowledge that this book will expand me, even as I write it.

Just like life.

For more information on Natalie, including her 30th Anniversary Edition of “Writing Down the Bones” go to: www.nataliegoldberg.com

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